This past June Mike and I celebrated nine years of marriage!
And yeah, I mean, that’s awesome and everything, but what’s really interesting is that the past nine years and two months have all been thanks to a blind date that happened 10 years ago this month. I feel like that statement makes me really old. Do people even meet on blind dates anymore?
I realize that in the grand scheme of things, nine years is just a drop in the bucket of eternity. But I kind of feel like in today’s world it’s quite the accomplishment. Links contain affiliates, all opinions are my own.
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Awhile ago I was talking to a friend of mine about marriage. This friend said that most of the people they knew said they weren’t happy in their marriages. That makes me so sad, for so many reasons! Here’s the thing though people, marriage is all about choices. You can choose to be selfish. You can choose to find fault. You can choose to focus on the negative, or…
…or…
You can choose to be happy. You can choose to show love, to serve your spouse, to work together. My friends, it is so very important to work together, to show a united front. And I have found that as you show your love through support and service for your spouse, it not only makes your spouse happier, but it makes you happier too!
I am not saying that you should just accept every problem that arises; sometimes there are significant issues in marriage and, even with the help of professionals, your marriage might not be able to recover. I’m not trying to be insensitive to anyone, and I realize that my experience—like everyone else’s—is unique and limited.
But I also know, that I am happy in my marriage—so happy. I know that everyday Mike and I try to make choices to serve and love and be equally yoked. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that our life is all sunshine and rainbows and magical unicorn poop. It’s more like partly sunny with a chance of rain… and lots of stinky baby poop.
Trust me, not as awesome as magical unicorn poop.
So, for what it’s worth, that’s my advice. Make the choice to love your spouse and show that love. Make the choice to work together as a team instead of being competitors. Choose to be happy. Marriage isn’t about finding the right person, rather it’s about being the right person and realizing that that is pretty much all you have control over.
Psst… did you also know that the couple that accessorizes together, stays together? Okay, I made that up, but treating yourself sure feels nice. Be sure to enter my giveaway for a $75 credit for JORD wood watches //here//. Even if you don’t win you will still receive a $20 e-voucher towards the watch of your choice!
What’s your advice on relationships?
Also, what’s the consensus, do people still meet on blind dates? How did you meet your spouse?
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15 Responses to marriage advice from a blind date
Wow from a blind date. Congrats!
Thank you so much!
Great Post! My fave marriage advice is “happy wife, happy life” lol Also, choose your battles!
So true! I always ask myself, “would I rather be right, or happy?”
I love this! Happy anniversary 🙂 My husband and I met on EHarmony!
Thank you so much! And yeah, I feel like a lot of people are meeting online these days!
You are adorable. I love reading about a happy marriage. My hubby and I are going on 11 years. Some of the best advice we had was that marriage is 100/100 not 50/50. I love that you encourage people to be partners and not competitors. ❤️
So true! Exactly, partners and not competitors. Thanks for your comment!
Beautifully written and very true. Realizing that marriage is about being the right person is the best advice. Anything easily attained is cheaply held. Cherish the one your with.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment Joni!
Happy Anniversary! So cool that you two met on a blind date. Nathan and I will celebrate 20 years total in November. Talk about feeling old!
Yeah, I seem to remember that you guys have quite the history together (you did some posts on that, right?), that’s so cool!
Happy Anniversary!! I am glad to hear that something good came out of a blind date for you. I also met my husband on a blind date. we met in 1991 in January and married September 1992 and this month on the 26th we will be married 24 years.
I would do it all over again in a heartbeat.we have one daughter together and i had a daughter from a previous marriage and now we have 3 grands and a little girl due this month from daughters getting married and their blended families. We could not have done this without ourt faith and love of Christ.
We help each other out and have taught our children to keep an open mind. It has to be two not one doing the work. You have to support each other.
I so agree, lots of support. Thank you for your comment and congrats on 24 years!
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